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My thoughts on LZ Margo 53 years later . . .
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Steve Haisley
Sep 13, 2021
I hear you. I think our generation, as well as our parents, was taught to just suck it up and deal with it. Think about it. If we cried or showed any emotions or feelings, it was a sign of weakness. We develop a lame sense of humor and other defenses to protect and cover our true feelings. We are Marines. We do our job and continue on. Trust me. I've been there. One of the best things to ever happen to me was joining a veteran's support group. I started sponsoring a Marine from our church who was in the 12-step program about 2 1/2 years ago. He attended a veteran's support group and I went with him one Tuesday evening just to be supportive. I liked the group so much that I stayed. We have a mix of young and old combat veterans. I've learned that regardless of when we served or in what conflict, we all share many of the same emotions and struggles. It has been an eye-opener for me. I'm not alone! The therapist who runs our group is also a Vietnam combat veteran. He "walks the walk and talks the talk." In addition, I've started seeing him on a weekly basis and it has been such a freeing experience. I've learned that sharing my emotions or feelings, or even crying isn't a sign of weakness. It's a sign that I'm healing. To be honest, I'm tired of pretending I'm a tough guy and acting like nothing bothers me. I'm not a tough guy. In fact, I don't know that I was ever a tough guy. I may have appeared so on the outside, but I kept all my feelings bottled up inside for decades. By doing so, I nearly destroyed our marriage and my relationship with my son and daughter. I truly wish I would have sought help years ago. I'm a 72-year old man who's tired of acting like nothing bothers me or laughing and covering things up with humor. I don't want to be remembered as a "bad ass" or a "tough guy." I want to be remembered as a loving and caring husband, dad, and grandfather. What I find ironic is that in all the years I've been giving presentations to high school kids, I've never been able to get through a single one without getting emotional. I'm not ashamed of crying or sharing my feelings anymore. It is an amazing, healing, and freeing experience. I'm not 19-years old anymore and don't have to impress anyone. I don't care what people think. I have nothing to prove to anyone. I hope that one day that you find the peace I have. I'd be remiss if I didn't say that God has played a tremendous role in my healing process. Even though there have been many times when I've given up on Him, He has never given up on me. I am so very, very blessed. Semper Fi
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Steve Haisley
Jan 17, 2021
Wow, John. That’s crazy!
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